OK, OK so it’s been awhile since I posted my last blog…..One of the first things my friend told me when she was helping me get this set up was ” make sure you post regularly or you will lose readers and interest. My profound apologies. I will strive to do better….smiley face:)
I had planned to continue my step by step “decluttering your home” marathon but chose to side track to a story of a client I just helped recently. This client had the astronomical chore of taking care of two households in her family. Sadly, she lost two close family members within 24 hours of one another. It would be an emotional, overwhelming and heart breaking chore to clean out a home of a loved one let alone two! I had employed a few of my crew to get the job done quickly. Three against one was what my client had to endure. We lined up for her to make difficult decisions as to where each item had to go…either trash, donate or keep for other family members. This lady was as real trooper and I commended her daily as she had the difficult task of making decisions on behalf of her family.
Some day, you may be in this situation (if you haven’t already), so being prepared for death is a MUST! Yes, it’s a scarey word and we tend to avoid anything that deals with it but being prepared takes the burden off of your loved ones and preparedness would be the best gift you could ever leave to anyone.
Having an updated will is crucial to having your possessions dealt with properly by a trusted executor that you have chosen. They don’t necessarily have to be family members…just someone who is patient, trustworthy and has the ability to get the job done in a timely manner.
Having a separate “list” of your special items and where you wish those items to go is also important. That way there is no arguing and bickering within family members as to who gets your “stuff”. You would be amazed how “true colors” appear out of know where from family members that you least expected.
Having the “talk” with your family regarding your wishes is the best thing you could ever do for them. When the time comes (and I’m hoping not for a long long time), they will have appreciated you having discussions with them. We want our family to remember us with love and fond memories not bitterness and anger having to deal with a home full of “stuff” with no plan.
As for my client and with my help, she and her family have closure and they can continue to remember their loved ones with cherished memories and peace of mind. Until next time, get your ducks in a row and I promise I will be back sooner than later….smiley face!